Queen Of Hearts Blog

Who do I want to be? How do I want the people around me to feel? How can I live out my God-given purpose daily?

As I reflect upon this holiday season, and what Christmas means to me, my prayer is that God will help me to be.. More aware… More intentional… More purposeful… More Emotionally Intelligent…

Having an attitude of gratitude is essential to living a happy life. Research shows that gratitude is vital for your wellbeing. Grateful people have higher levels of contentment, vitality, optimism and fewer instances of depression and stress than their less grateful counterparts. Grateful people are also more successful in their business ventures.

As I reflect on 2020, there are many lessons I have learned – but the thought that keeps running around in my mind is the idea that what we see on the outside, is born on the inside.

Leadership requires more than books smarts. As Daniel Goleman puts it, EQ can be more important than IQ for leadership success and this is because leadership is primarily about people.

Research shows that greater self-awareness helps individuals to be more proactive, more efficient & effective, leads to better decision making and enhanced communication skills as well as increased confidence levels and greater wellbeing.

Change is just as much emotional as it is rational. In order for you to move forward, both your head & heart must be in agreement. Emotions drive behaviour, and whilst the emotional side of change is messy and uncomfortable, real change is powered by feelings.

When situations arise, the rational part of the brain processes thoughts about the facts of that situation and those thoughts trigger a response from the emotional part of the brain, which releases chemicals that induce feelings and based on those feelings, we act.

It is said that when the going gets tough the tough get going, and we have really seen this over the last few months. As I have purposed to be one of the tough – the ones who ‘get going’ – I have learned a number of important insights: >> The tough get going – on their own journey >> The tough get going – on the inside first >> The tough get going – and keep going because of their why.

Optimism isn’t blindly hoping for the best. In fact, being “optimistic” in a passive, naïve sense – without real effort – would only get us deeper into trouble. The type of optimism that will help us is this skill of optimism: intentionally practicing an optimistic mindset.

Optimism isn’t blindly hoping for the best. In fact, being “optimistic” in a passive, naïve sense – without real effort – would only get us deeper into trouble. The type of optimism that will help us is this skill of optimism: intentionally practicing an optimistic mindset.

As we navigate into ‘life-after-covid’ and the new normal that everyone keeps talking about, your ability to use your emotions as a strategic resource will mean the difference between success & failure.