I didn’t purpose to be in the space that I find myself in. God plucked me from the path that I had set out for myself & set me on an alternative journey. At the start it all appeared somewhat ‘accidental’ but I know now that it was no accident, rather His design, His purpose for my life…
So now that I am here, these are my confessions…the lessons I am learning about being a woman in business, building an empire, one brick at a time…
Lesson No 66: The Future Is Bright!
“Optimism doesn’t wait on facts. It deals with prospects.”
– Norman Cousins
I can’t believe we are in the final quarter of 2020. And we are still grappling with the coronavirus pandemic. Who would ever have believed that 2020 would turn out this way.
Around the start of the year, sometime during Feb, I was having a conversation with a close friend of mine who is based in Hong Kong. As we were catching up, she was sharing the struggle of juggling work & ‘homeschooling.’ Hong Kong has shut down schools in order to head off the transmission of the virus, and the children were learning online. At the time – I remember saying all those things that you say when you trying to be supportive to a situation that you have no experience of, and so my ‘pole’ and ‘God will give you grace’ were somewhat contrived – not because I wasn’t sympathetic to her pain, but because I just didn’t understand it.
Fast forward a few months & I was feeling her pain. Suddenly I too, was trying to figure out how to juggle this ‘new normal’ – supporting my boys as they forayed into online learning, and trying to keep my business afloat as clients begun to postpone projects ‘until further notice’ with no clear indication of what exactly that meant or would entail.
What a ride it has been! This is the year that those of us in business will look back on & marvel, as we give God thanks for having survived.
And yet amidst the struggle of navigating the unknown & pushing forward through the challenges of postponed projects, cancelled engagements and an economy slowly being brought to her knees – there has been a glimmer of light. Here are there are pockets of sunshine, opportunities to go back to the drawing board, and perhaps pivot – opportunities for reinvention.
It is said that when the going gets tough the tough get going, and we have really seen this over the last few months. As I have purposed to be one of the tough – the ones who ‘get going’ – I have learned a number of important insights
The tough get going – on their own journey.
When the pandemic broke, social media was awash with individuals who were showcasing their newfound skills, or the hobbies that they had brought back from the archives. I must admit I struggled at first – as I watched people share pictures of the baking, cooking, artistic expressions and gym workouts – and I had nothing to show. But then I realised that I had my own journey. And I focussed my attention on charting my course, even as I enjoyed, and took inspiration from what was going on in the lives around me.
Your journey is your journey. And whilst you may get inspired by what others are doing – don’t allow it to take anything away from your experience! And don’t forget – we save the best for social media!
The tough get going – on the inside first
If there is one thing the pandemic has taught me, it is that real toughness is on the inside. Navigating this season has been hard, really hard. And I have had to dig really deep to keep myself motivated, energised and optimistic about the future I am creating.
In his book, ‘Ordering Your Private World,’ George MacDonald talks about the ‘Sinkhole Syndrome.’ Sinkholes occur when underground streams drain away during seasons of drought, causing the ground at the surface to lose its underlying support and suddenly cave in.
‘As the pressure of life continues to grow, the lives of more people will resemble a sinkhole, unless they gaze inward & ask themselves, is there a private world beneath the noise & action at the surface? A world that needs to be explored & maintained? Can strength & resilience be developed that will bear up under the growing pressure at the surface’
~ George MacDonald, ‘Ordering Your Private World’
I am so grateful that this work of ‘ordering my private world’ begun pre-COVID. I have no idea how I would have survived otherwise.
The tough get going – and keep going because of their why.
As an Emotional Intelligence Coach, I do a lot of work exploring purpose. And it has always been very powerful work. But this pandemic has shone an even brighter light on the principles of purpose, and why every individual needs to be clear about their why. It’s your ‘WHY’ that energises you – that keeps you moving forward, or trying again or getting back up when you fall.
I am blessed to be living out my God-given purpose. And to be honest that is what has kept me moving forward on the days when I have felt like giving up.
And so the tough get going. And we will keep on going. One step at a time, as we create a positive future. It may not look exactly how we has initially envisioned it. But it is still bright.
Emotional Intelligence is being more aware, more intentional & more purposeful!
Stay Safe. With Love,
The Queen Of Hearts
| Six Seconds EQ Practitioner | Master Trainer & Facilitator |
| Award Winning International Keynote Speaker |